1. Lay out on a boat deck
2. Get a new man
3. Fly my boys on a plane
4. Try a new thing
5. Kiss a celeb
6. Get my new tattoo
7. Throw the most extravagant book party (on June 27)
8. Have a Queens event go Central (work stuff)
9. Be on time for everything
10. Buy a trampoline
11. Publish my boys first book
12. Be on a reality show
13. Race at a race track
<< bad luck or nah?
14. Ride a motorcycle
15. Take a surfing lesson
16. Take a road trip with my framily
17. Play golf
18. Gain 10 lbs
19. Potty train the boys
20. Wear a bikini confidently for the first time since having kids
Send your accomplished ones to me on twttr & the gram all summer long #summerbucketlist @thedolldiva
So my girls and I recently had a slumber party and as turnt up as we got staying up all night dancing, drinking, munching, watching movies, and exchanging gifts; we eventually turnt down for some girl chat. The topic of guys came up of course, but a new idea was introduced.
"Do you think one woman can truly make a man happy?" because this statement came from the idea that homosexual relationships are more successful than heterosexual ones. This idea goes as far as to say that dudes treat dudes better in general. She believes they're more loyal to their boys, most trusting, more open, and more willing to go that extra mile for 'em. Yet, when the time comes for a dude to open his heart up for a woman- by letting her in, trusting her, showing some loyalty and a lil commitment- it just isn't happening as quickly. Dudes are not man-ing up for their women, they're not playing their role as a protector and a provider, nor are they expressing their love (in actions, not just in words). On top of all that, it seems like no matter how many women a man can get with and be with, they just don't seem to ever be satisfied. I've even heard some men say that their marriages are successful because they are able to go out seeking multitudes of other women.
Previously, I posted a video blog stating a few reasons why men have said they aren't "buying what some single ladies are selling". On that list were things like, women aren't supportive enough, they aren't trusting enough, and they have unrealistic expectations for men. Well, what if your woman is supportive, trusting, and actually has realistic expectations for you? Will you be any more faithful, committed, and loving to just her?
Is it really the case that one woman can't please a man? On the show, "The New Atlanta," one guy admits at an all male forum, that it's pretty unlikely that he'll find a woman who can satisfy him physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. But are y'all dudes even looking?
Tell us what's up, though? Can one woman really make you happy? Or are yall in need of something we just can't provide? If there's something we're lacking, please say, because most single women can't seem to figure out what...
Finally, an outing to whisk us all away for a trip meant for bonding, relaxation, luxury, and lots of fun! An all-inclusive trip from the east coast to the beautiful island of Bermuda aboard the upscale cruiseline, Royal Caribbean Cruises, leaving from Cape Liberty, NJ on Saturday May 31, 2014 and returning on Thursday June 5, 2014.
Join us as we leave our stressful lives behind and enjoy 6 days (5 Nights) sipping on cocktails, jetskiing, parasailing, taking dips in the pool, the jacuzzi, and the beach, then dining, dancing, discussions, shopping, shows, and more!
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I heard it before and I think its sooo unfair of people who say, I'm living in a "dreamworld". Not because it isn't true, but because they're saying it to negate the joy I feel and to doubt what I believe can happen is even possible.
Why is it viewed negatively for a girl to have dreams these days? Why don't people believe a girl can have it all? What's wrong with staying positive and believing in yourself? Having confidence in your abilities and trusting God that things will someday be okay?
In my opinion, theres nothing wrong with it at all. I have always kept my dreams alive. Even when I'm in my most trying times (like I've been as of recent), the only thing that keeps me going (aside from my kids) is the belief in my dreams. I picture my better days and I know that if the love I have in me is real, then real love is out there. I've been heartbroken but never broken. As long as I keep fighting, I can never lose. I keep my heart open which is why I still believe a newer, truer love is on its way.
But still, people consider me a "fronter", a "dreamer" and claim I'm not living in reality. I've heard people state how I'm "in the clouds" and "living in a dreamworld". As happy as I am living this way, it saddens me that people who say this aren't experiencing the joy I feel inside. They don't understand what it's like to set yourself aside from the norm and the look at life in a new, more unique light. Choosing to live a quality of life comes from within. It's so simple to obtain it but people are so wrapped in the negativity and doubt, they're missing out. They don't see how much happiness you can feel just by loving yourself, the people close to you, and appreciating the few great things that surround you. They don't see joy within their pain or sunshine peering through the rain. It's those little things I do that keep me sane and blissful no matter what awful realities present themselves.
At the end of the day, we all have pain and challenges and struggles and burdens to bear. And as the real woman that I am, I know I can't always change the circumstances but I can always change my reactions to them. You have the power to either falter when the storms come or rise above and make the most of it. I mean, take the lesson from it and move forward rather than wallow in self pity. I'd rather share the story of my pain with others and hope to offer something relatable or relieving to people who believe that just because I smile, everything is perfect. I'd like to let people know that I smile not because anything's ever perfect but because even though it's not, I still have the power and the love and the strength to keep on keeping on. Just believe in yourself. Believe that you're destined for greatness and surround yourself with people who do too.
It's not easy to see anything good buried in the midst of a bad situation but I've been making a commitment every day to search for it. That's the only way I'll ever find it. Because your joy depends solely on you and your state of mind. Find it, whichever ways it may come. And call on the support and love of good friends & fam when you need to.
So lately, when people say I'm living in a dreamworld, all I can think is, dammit I really like it here. Care to join me?
Do you dare to dream?
It's so sickening the way guys play out their women. They will take a perfectly good quality woman, turn her into wifey and the mother of their kids, then before long when she's comfortably locked down, she's becomes a baby momma or just their chick, and they do her so dirty.
It's disheartening how blatantly Stevie J does this on VH1's Love & Hip Hop Atlanta. I don't know real the scenarios in the show are, but the portrayal of Stevie J doggin' out his two women- MiMi and Joselin- is real enough to make me mad!
Here are 10 reasons why ladies hate Stevie J: The Ultimate Dog...
1. Stevie J is with a woman, MiMi, who loves him despite his lack of honesty and respect, and he takes her for granted. She wants to be there for him day in and day out but yet, he chooses to seek out that love in other places. “Long nights, girls, liquor, Lord knows what else,” said Mimi. “If it was just money he was getting in the studio I wouldn’t be mad at that. But it’s way more than money he’s getting.”
2. Gives his main lady, MiMi, a home wayyy outside the city where he works & screws his artist, thinking MiMi's gonna be happy about the fact that this new home drives a bigger wedge in their relationship. It's as if he's saying, "Shut the f#ck up and be a good dog and do what I say." -MiMi
3. He says he will start coming home, "a little bit more" when MiMI asks if he will be sharing their home with their daughter as a family.
4. He has a main lady in his life and is allowing the side chick to call him, "Daddy" in front of mixed company and mutual friends.
5. He shows up at an event with his side chick when he knows his woman, MiMi, is there celebrating with her friends. He's catering to the side chick, putting her jacket on, calling her, and sticking by her while MiMi is fleeing the scene.
8. He took a girl out of the strip club to give her a "better life" but is still pimping her, only now he's compensating his "hoe" with studio time.
9. He called Erica a b*tch and a slut monkey for no reason.
10. He sweet talks the pants off all his women and just plants his lies all over the place. All his dirt embarrases MiMi and leaves her vulnerable to second baby mama drama, disloyalty, and everytime she's out, she got somebody dishing dirt to her about her man. "There's a big difference between what Stevie says and what Stevie does." -MiMi
BONUS. When he finds out his side chick and artist(Joselin) is pregnant, he tries to convince her to get rid of the baby on account of her music career & body image knowing damn well, he was truly concerned about the effect this would have on his family and his own money.
"AND IN THAT ORDER!!" -Mama Dee
Damn, it's so sad that with all of the above reasons, women still wanna mess with a guy like this. Ariane, MimI's good friend, is constantly trying to be a voice of reason, hoping her friend finds a better love but MiMi insists on hanging on to the one she has. I guess in their own way, an ultimate dog has a reason to be loved for every reason they have to be hated. Here are a few Stevie J displays...
1. He's a Smooth talker. He's got a winning smile and knows when and how to use it.
2. He's a successful producer and is financially stable. He is a provider and supports his family.
3. He's the "sweetest, kindest, nicest guy when he wants to be," says MiMi.
4. He extremely talented and can sing his way into his women's hearts, then that piano playing gets him into their panties.
5. He fights for his women, goes by their job, jumps in their ride, apologizes, and tries to make things right even when they are sooo very wrong.
6. Knows what material goods to give his women when they are at their last straw.
7. He's a romantic and knows how and when to serenade his lady with dinner, roses, and a sweet song.
8. He listens to his women and gives them an inkling of what they wanna hear before he hits them with something more truthful. He let's MiMi think he's gonna consider the 20% offer and makes her believe she has a say in the decisions of his production company.
9. He knows how to handle his business right in the bedroom. As Joselin has stated, he is a great lover and the sex is moving and powerful.
10. He makes each of his women feel special in their own unique ways. Stevie has each of them thinking they are #1.
All I know is, ladies let's get our priorities straight! Are you interested in a loyal, faithful man who truly puts you first? Or are you willing to settle for the ultimate dog who will lie and trick you into loving him in ways he doesn't deserve? Because those dudes are a dime a dozen and ain't worth much at the end of the day.
A good man is hard to find but if you're lucky enough to find him, you can be proud of it.
Tune in to Love & Hip Hop Atlanta Monday nights at 8pm on VH1 and watch the drama unfold...
Would you mess with a dude like Stevie J? Why or Why not? And guys, do you support Stevie's ways?
Posted by LolaBunny on December 29, 2010 at 11:34 AM
Do you ladies believe men have the ability to be faithful and stay faithful? I'm getting doubtful of it just based on the experiences I've had and stories I've heard. I have so many married men try to talk to me and even some with families and kids. It's really sad. The people I thought were wholesome and true have proven otherwise over time and I' starting to doubt that fidelity is even realistic. How can I really know if a man has the ability to stay faithful to me throughout our lives together? Is it even possible?
This weekend I had an opportunity to meet one of the ladies of a show I once considered a favorite, Basketball Wives LA. Over the course of it debut season, I went from loving it to feeling indifferent to not feeling it all. The drama got dry after a while when the women began directing all their drama in one woman's way- Jackie Christie's. And it wasn't long before that got redundant and me, along with many others, began losing interest.
But I wasn't ready to give up on the ladies that easily. And meeting Jackie Christie in the flesh this weekend at Voyeur Nightclub in LA for the BET Pre-Awards Party gave me reason to stay a fan for good!
She was all smiles and hugs, and kept a positive attitude. It was fun, funny, and fun-loving, just as our girl-talk should be. She acknowledged that the first season of #BBWLA was flawed but gave me promises that season 2 will have a whole fresh new vibe. And I believed her...
Check out our discussion:
Delicia: What can we expect in the next season of Baskbetball Wives LA?
Jackie: OMG It is gon' be a whole bunch of surprises. It's definitely gon' be a big turn! Everybody's expecting to see one thing, they gon' see something very different. But it's gonna be better than the 1st season.
Delicia: When does it air?
Jackie: September. We're in week 6 of shooting right now.
Delicia: Wow, so are you... any better with the other girls?
Jackie: Yeah, everybody's good. I had to SLAP one of them, I'm not gonna say who. But we're all good.
Delicia: Well, that's good to know! We're gonna look forward to that ---SLAP---. (I laugh) OMG, you guys usually keep it classy though. And this is a show that speaks to women, particularly urban women. You know we're all about it. Do you think you portray black women in the right way? Because that's a big thing...
Jackie: We will be. We definitely will be. There was a lot of animosity the first time. A lot of misunderstandings. But I'm a strong-willed person. Don't disrespect me, you know. But I think this time around, everybody knows their place and they're staying in their lane. It's all about businesses, our families, all the good stuff.
Delicia: That's the stuff that I really care about so I really hope so. I mean, I like the drama too but what propels me to the show is the fact that you guys are all different and you guys are doing [ordinary] things on a wayyy bigger level. You got big things happening with your families, your businesses, your husbands, and you guys are celebrities, It's just so exciting...
Jackie: OMG You guys are going to be very entertained and very happy by this season!
Delicia: I feel like I will be!
She went on to share her weekend whereabouts, on how she's stopping at a few exclusive events to show her support. She even mentioned she would be attending the BET Awards the following evening- unless her allergies continued to act up like it was at the moment. She was open and honest with me.
Although the show may have her perceived as a lil nutty and overbearing, she was a down to earth woman with a dramatic edge. She stated how "blessed and happy" she felt to be where she is today. And with a faithful man who re-marries her every year, a successful show re-airing on VH1 this fall, and her joyful spirit- who can blame her?! Btw, I hear Jackie and her husband Doug Christie (retired Los Angeles Lakers, Sacramento Kings) are getting into the porn business! Not as on screen talent but as producers... Juicy! Let's see how that goes.
Delicia: One last question, Are you good with Shaunie O'Neal?
Jackie: Oh, I love Shaunie. Yes, we're really good friends, that's my sister. I have nothing but good things to say about her. I know people pick on her but all she is, is executive producer of a series and it has a life of its own. It doesn't reflect her.
Enough said! I thanked Jackie Christie for sharing and for being oh so real with me about the show, her friendships, and her blessed life altogether. Lol.
Let's all tune in this September 2012 to VH1 and see how season 2 of Basketball Wives LA pans out! Draya, Laura, Gloria, Malaysia, Kimsha, Imani, and Jackie will hopefully have us in for the addictive treat we're missing!
Will you tune in to season 2 of Basketball Wives LA?